But if it makes me homophobic, sexist and hateful by your standards to want to be in a relationship with someone who was born a woman, then I guess I'm fine with those labels.
even though I disagree with Sarah about this subject, I can tell you this is not what she's saying.
I'm more on your side but I did a little thought experiment with your statement: I substituted the gender for race/ethnicity and played it out:
if it makes me hateful by your standards to want to be in a relationship with someone who was born (white, black, christian, jewish, any word u want here) then I guess I'm fine with those labels.Which, mind u, is still a valid statement to make but wouldn't those words sound odd as hell coming out of anyones mouth? "Well I wanted to date her, but come to find out she was born Hindu!"
I think on the far end of progressive thought race and gender are both thought of as mostly social constructs. Differences that are real because we make them real. For instance biologically the size and strength difference between male and female humans should only be like 3-4% but out in the world we see those differences exaggerated by social factors.
I can see the bias but like you the status-quo is more comfortable for me, if the concept of gender is mostly in our heads
I'm happy with it and anything that threatens to tear down or breech that wall makes he hella uneasy, queasy even. Perhaps (most likely) further into the future more advanced humans will have a completely different take on gender.