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Title: stuff to leave behind when your turn 35
Post by: Ojingeo on January 25, 2011, 09:25:10 AM
My friend and I were talking about things we thought were healthy to leave behind a few years after finishing your first abortive attempt at a career and first or second round of graduate school:

Examples:

-thinking your poetry/music is good poetry/music
-Having fun in anything that isn't your own home
-Jeans

And a bunch more.

What are some good ones I'm missing?
Title: Re: stuff to leave behind when your turn 35
Post by: Steve of Bloomington on January 25, 2011, 10:51:10 AM
Having fun in anything that isn't your home? What does that mean?
Title: Re: stuff to leave behind when your turn 35
Post by: Sarah on January 25, 2011, 10:57:11 AM
That you don't want to go out, sonny.
Title: Re: stuff to leave behind when your turn 35
Post by: Steve of Bloomington on January 25, 2011, 11:51:18 AM
I thought having fun in an overpriced car was a key element of the mid-life crisis.
Title: Re: stuff to leave behind when your turn 35
Post by: Sarah on January 25, 2011, 01:28:20 PM
Don't ask me--I don't drive.
Title: Re: stuff to leave behind when your turn 35
Post by: Pidgeon on January 25, 2011, 01:48:00 PM
Being a vegan.
Title: Re: stuff to leave behind when your turn 35
Post by: JonFromMaplewood on January 25, 2011, 02:09:30 PM
Music that is coming out now.  Most expansion of your musical knowledge comes from learning music that was released at some earlier date.
Title: Re: stuff to leave behind when your turn 35
Post by: Sarah on January 25, 2011, 03:28:45 PM
Being a vegan.

Boy, are you going to be in trouble.
Title: Re: stuff to leave behind when your turn 35
Post by: Paul DeLouisiana on January 25, 2011, 03:30:47 PM
Music that is coming out now.  Most expansion of your musical knowledge comes from learning music that was released at some earlier date.

I am in my 20's and I listened to 5 sec onds of the new Decemberists album and though I must be 35.
Title: Re: stuff to leave behind when your turn 35
Post by: Sarah on January 25, 2011, 03:41:30 PM
I think my interest in new music peaked at thirty-five. 
Title: Re: stuff to leave behind when your turn 35
Post by: Gilly on January 25, 2011, 04:30:50 PM
I hope that's not the case for me. I've always said that new music will remain exciting and so far I'm still anxious to hear new stuff at age 30.
Title: Re: stuff to leave behind when your turn 35
Post by: masterofsparks on January 25, 2011, 04:34:58 PM
Music that is coming out now.  Most expansion of your musical knowledge comes from learning music that was released at some earlier date.

I'm realizing this is also the case for me. Granted, most of the music I listened to as a younger person was older, but now it's REALLY old. Most of the 70s music that I love is coming up on 40 years old, which means that all of my reference points go over the heads of people in their 20s. And the fact that I've never liked much of the indie rock from my so-called glory years makes me seem that much older and more curmudgeonly.
Title: Re: stuff to leave behind when your turn 35
Post by: Sarah on January 25, 2011, 04:46:03 PM
I hope that's not the case for me. I've always said that new music will remain exciting and so far I'm still anxious to hear new stuff at age 30.

You're way more interested in music than I ever was, so I think you're safe. 
Title: Re: stuff to leave behind when your turn 35
Post by: yesno on January 25, 2011, 04:51:57 PM
Music that is coming out now.  Most expansion of your musical knowledge comes from learning music that was released at some earlier date.

I'm realizing this is also the case for me. Granted, most of the music I listened to as a younger person was older, but now it's REALLY old. Most of the 70s music that I love is coming up on 40 years old, which means that all of my reference points go over the heads of people in their 20s. And the fact that I've never liked much of the indie rock from my so-called glory years makes me seem that much older and more curmudgeonly.

I wonder if the 1990s seem as far away to kids today, as the 1970s seemed to me in the 1990s.
Title: Re: stuff to leave behind when your turn 35
Post by: betheboy on January 25, 2011, 05:00:49 PM
Getting tattoos.
Title: Re: stuff to leave behind when your turn 35
Post by: buffcoat on January 25, 2011, 05:00:58 PM
Living paycheck to paycheck should be out of the way by 35, in my opinion.  My closest friends are completely split between those who make gobs and gobs and those who don't make enough to put any aside.

It might not make a difference at 25, but I think it makes a big one by the time you're 35.  Always having to choose between reasonably priced luxuries gets old, from what I hear.
Title: Re: stuff to leave behind when your turn 35
Post by: SJK on January 25, 2011, 06:48:17 PM
Wow, I'm busted on so may levels regarding the things that should be left behind. When I work I make decent money...I'm a freelancer. When it rains it pours, when there is no work there is no work. I have very little control over that. I haven't had a regular paycheck since I was 25. It hasn't made my life so predictable, which I guess is something that I like. It also hasn't stopped me from doing the stuff that I want, owning property, traveling, eating good food. I've met people in all stages of life who are still figuring out what to do, they tend to be some of the more interesting people I've encountered. In my own family...Auntie R defended her PHD thesis at 65(also working full time and raising kids on her own///it took ten years of part time studies)...I thought that was kind of amazing. My mom had a house full of kids in her late forties and decided that getting a university degree was a good idea, and it was. So, ultimately I don't buy into most of the things you should leave behind at a certain age. Although I like the idea that one should be organized enough to manage their responsibilities as best they can at any age. I wonder if all these posts, aside from the comedic aspects, are implying or hoping for stability and a level of comfort at a certain age. I think it comes down making good decisions, hard work, and luck. I could be wrong.

Sorry for getting so serious.
How about, Spider-Man curtains and bed sheets?
Title: Re: stuff to leave behind when your turn 35
Post by: fonpr on January 25, 2011, 07:27:28 PM
Always having to choose between reasonably priced luxuries gets old, from what I hear.

Depends on what you consider "reasonably priced" and "luxuries".

"America has too much of everything," Jack LaLanne.
Title: Re: stuff to leave behind when your turn 35
Post by: buffcoat on January 26, 2011, 12:59:52 AM
I just wish I could have cookies AND pizza that I don't have to turn on the oven twice to get.
Title: Re: stuff to leave behind when your turn 35
Post by: Christina on January 26, 2011, 07:01:06 AM
Tilting at windmills, my man.
Title: Re: stuff to leave behind when your turn 35
Post by: Sarah on January 26, 2011, 07:44:32 AM
Hey, the man's a dreamer.  Show some respect.
Title: Re: stuff to leave behind when your turn 35
Post by: cutout on January 26, 2011, 11:28:39 AM
I just wish I could have cookies AND pizza that I don't have to turn on the oven twice to get.

I assume you mean this -

A cookie pizza...I call it a cookizza (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8umVKXfcutA&feature=player_embedded#)
Title: Re: stuff to leave behind when your turn 35
Post by: Shaggy 2 Grote on January 26, 2011, 01:31:54 PM
I hear you, buffcoat.  Personally, I've had it up to here with regularly-spelled chicken wings.
Title: Re: stuff to leave behind when your turn 35
Post by: iAmBaronVonTito on January 26, 2011, 07:30:12 PM
I hope that's not the case for me. I've always said that new music will remain exciting and so far I'm still anxious to hear new stuff at age 30.

Tom has made it public that he is both in his fifties and always buying new music- i have no fear of losing this interest.  EVER.
Title: Re: stuff to leave behind when your turn 35
Post by: Ojingeo on January 27, 2011, 04:34:41 AM
When you're thirty-five you should stop self-identifying as a "libertarian." And probably as a "Marxist." At 25 you should have stopped thinking Ayn Rand was any good.
Title: Re: stuff to leave behind when your turn 35
Post by: fonpr on January 27, 2011, 11:18:24 AM
When you're thirty-five you should stop self-identifying as a "libertarian."

Would you prefer anarchy?
Title: Re: stuff to leave behind when your turn 35
Post by: buffcoat on January 27, 2011, 01:42:24 PM
Regarding politics, by the time you're 35 you should realize ain't nobody you don't know got your back.
Title: Re: stuff to leave behind when your turn 35
Post by: Ojingeo on January 27, 2011, 11:30:44 PM
When you're thirty-five you should stop self-identifying as a "libertarian."

Would you prefer anarchy?

oh but fredericks, don't you know that Randians and libertarians consider themselves anarchist? (the corporations are supposed to take care of themselves, or something.) i suppose you mean anarcho-syndicalism. one of those leftwing brands of anarchy.

i agree with Buffcoat that nobody has your back. but i tend to lean towards the idea that we should watch each other's back, and we should allow people on our lawns.

i can't quite call myself a Marxist because it so antiquated an idealogy. and anarcho-syndicalism is another utopian dream--even it seems so much more desirable to rightwing libertarian anarcho-capitalism.

but i do believe that by the time you're 35 you need to realize that you live on a planet with other human beings, most in desperate situations. if you can give some, you should. the time for worshiping the idea of "selfishness" is over. it's adult time. time to start acting like a human being.
Title: Re: stuff to leave behind when your turn 35
Post by: Sarah on January 28, 2011, 07:39:39 AM
Yes, by the time you turn thirty-five, you should understand that being kind is one of the most important things.

Not that people do, of course.
Title: Re: stuff to leave behind when your turn 35
Post by: Paul DeLouisiana on January 28, 2011, 07:45:20 AM
Living paycheck to paycheck should be out of the way by 35, in my opinion.  My closest friends are completely split between those who make gobs and gobs and those who don't make enough to put any aside.

I feel you. Althought my friends don't MAKE gobs. They stroll through life easily because of their parents. I don't know what that's like. If I am living paycheck to paycheck when I am 35 it means I am still spending a hefty portion of my paycheck on records. I think I'll tone it down by then.
Title: Re: stuff to leave behind when your turn 35
Post by: buffcoat on January 28, 2011, 10:15:25 AM
Living paycheck to paycheck should be out of the way by 35, in my opinion.  My closest friends are completely split between those who make gobs and gobs and those who don't make enough to put any aside.

I feel you. Althought my friends don't MAKE gobs. They stroll through life easily because of their parents. I don't know what that's like. If I am living paycheck to paycheck when I am 35 it means I am still spending a hefty portion of my paycheck on records. I think I'll tone it down by then.


Good point, Paul!  I'll add to my post: it's time to stop taking any money from your parents.  AND it's time to move back out of your parents' house, by 35 if not before.  And make it the last time, ok?
Title: Re: stuff to leave behind when your turn 35
Post by: dave from knoxville on January 28, 2011, 12:22:22 PM
Ya'll are killing me. I am 52, and still live check to check. Maybe it's too much info, but I am still trying to scrape together last year's marathon pledge.
Title: Re: stuff to leave behind when your turn 35
Post by: Steve of Bloomington on January 28, 2011, 02:51:11 PM
Lots of people over 35 live check to check, for example when laid off to maximize value to shareholders or dealing with medical bills or their side or primary enterprise failed or they're putting kids through school or helping support older parents who are maybe unable to work or just not so employable in a youth-focused culture or such things.

But when you are 35 it's probably a good time to leave White Castle burger eating contests behind.
Title: Re: stuff to leave behind when your turn 35
Post by: Pidgeon on January 28, 2011, 06:56:21 PM
Displaying weapons in the living room.
Title: Re: stuff to leave behind when your turn 35
Post by: fish on January 28, 2011, 07:53:42 PM
Displaying weapons in the living room.
...leave White Castle burger eating contests behind.
Does this imply that these things are ok if someone is under 35?
Title: Re: stuff to leave behind when your turn 35
Post by: Sarah on January 28, 2011, 08:00:56 PM
Many of the things mentioned in this thread are worth forgoing at any age.
Title: Re: stuff to leave behind when your turn 35
Post by: fish on January 28, 2011, 08:10:22 PM
Many of the things mentioned in this thread are worth forgoing at any age.
It's a shaky premise.
Title: Re: stuff to leave behind when your turn 35
Post by: Pidgeon on January 28, 2011, 10:11:39 PM
I'd say that displaying weapons is pushing it under 35, but I don't think it's as bad as most people think.
Title: Re: stuff to leave behind when your turn 35
Post by: fish on January 28, 2011, 10:37:12 PM
Some people just don't have display-worthy weapons, at any age.

Other people have some weapons that everyone should see cuz they're sweeeeet.
Title: Re: stuff to leave behind when your turn 35
Post by: Sarah on January 28, 2011, 10:40:22 PM
I like my weapons concealed.
Title: Re: stuff to leave behind when your turn 35
Post by: fish on January 28, 2011, 11:07:47 PM
I like my weapons concealed.

Not like those immature youths with their fanciful weaponry displays.  Classy.
Title: Re: stuff to leave behind when your turn 35
Post by: dave from knoxville on January 28, 2011, 11:09:13 PM
Regret
Title: Re: stuff to leave behind when your turn 35
Post by: Sarah on January 28, 2011, 11:10:47 PM
I thought thirty-five was when that really kicks in.
Title: Re: stuff to leave behind when your turn 35
Post by: hardweek on January 28, 2011, 11:19:25 PM
Ok, here's one that I'm sure we can all agree on: pub crawls.
Title: Re: stuff to leave behind when your turn 35
Post by: buffcoat on January 29, 2011, 12:17:22 AM
Part of what I love about the FOT Forum is that by being a moderate Democrat I get to be the forum's arch-conservative.
Title: Re: stuff to leave behind when your turn 35
Post by: fish on January 29, 2011, 01:16:10 AM
Is there a political aspect to pub crawls?
Title: Re: stuff to leave behind when your turn 35
Post by: buffcoat on January 29, 2011, 02:59:50 AM
What political persuasion would one Blue Moon with orange slice and then home be?
Title: Re: stuff to leave behind when your turn 35
Post by: fish on January 29, 2011, 12:52:04 PM
Um, if you go to the same bar repeatedly, would that make you a re-pub-lican?




ugh... sorry
Title: Re: stuff to leave behind when your turn 35
Post by: Sarah on January 29, 2011, 03:47:15 PM
Aw, that's what I was till my bar closed down this past November. 
Title: Re: stuff to leave behind when your turn 35
Post by: fonpr on January 30, 2011, 10:58:04 AM
What political persuasion would one Blue Moon with orange slice and then home be?
Ultra-Conservative.
Title: Re: stuff to leave behind when your turn 35
Post by: Sarah on January 30, 2011, 11:24:11 AM
I think that's the tipple of a member of the Well-La-Di-Da--Aren't-We-Fancy? Party.
Title: Re: stuff to leave behind when your turn 35
Post by: fonpr on January 30, 2011, 12:33:51 PM
I think that's the tipple of a member of the Well-La-Di-Da--Aren't-We-Fancy? Party.
I was thinking more about conservative consumption than conspicuous consumption.



Title: Re: stuff to leave behind when your turn 35
Post by: buffcoat on January 30, 2011, 06:39:43 PM
I think that's the tipple of a member of the Well-La-Di-Da--Aren't-We-Fancy? Party.

Guilty as charged, although asking for the most obscure microbrew probably beats it.  Blue Moon is just a Coors beer.

I'm trying on drinks that are manly enough to get me by but don't taste like total garbage.  The following have been suggested: Sidecar, Old Fashioned, Tom Collins (summer only), Gimlet, Appletini (joke), Gin and Tonic (too gin-ny for my tastes).

Any other suggestions?
Title: Re: stuff to leave behind when your turn 35
Post by: Sarah on January 30, 2011, 07:06:20 PM
It was the orange slice that prompted my response.  I mean, some of us just get the one in the toe of our Christmas stocking.

For your question, how about screwdrivers?  Manhattans? Rusty Nails?  Rob Roys?  Martinis?
Title: Re: stuff to leave behind when your turn 35
Post by: cavorting with nudists on January 30, 2011, 08:13:51 PM
Yeah, if you don't like gin, what about vodka martinis?  And what are the garbagey drinks on the "manly" end of the scale that you have considered and rejected?

Title: Re: stuff to leave behind when your turn 35
Post by: Sarah on January 30, 2011, 08:46:38 PM
Vodka and tonic.  Or vodka and soda with lime.
Title: Re: stuff to leave behind when your turn 35
Post by: buffcoat on January 31, 2011, 01:49:27 AM
Yeah, if you don't like gin, what about vodka martinis?  And what are the garbagey drinks on the "manly" end of the scale that you have considered and rejected?

I don't like the taste of alcohol, but sometimes I am encouraged by circumstances to have a drink.  I really don't like martinis.  Single malt scotch tastes like kerosene to me.  By themselves, I know that I don't like any whiskey or whiskey-type beverage, vodka, gin, rum, wine or beer or anything that tastes strongly of them.

I'm not in a position where it would be ok to order what are considered girly drinks (margaritas, pina coladas, fuzzy navels, daiquiris, et c).  All this makes social drinking a chore.

The sidecar was ok.  I'm going for an Old Fashioned or a Whiskey Sour next time.  When I find the one that is at the meeting of the manly and non-liquor tasting curves, I shall plant the flag there.
Title: Re: stuff to leave behind when your turn 35
Post by: cutout on January 31, 2011, 02:07:34 AM
A Salty Dog/Greyhound can be nice (Grapefruit juice with vodka) in summer. Also Bombay (upper-middle-gin) and tonic or vodka + mandarin. I don't know  how manly those are, but nothing too embarrassing. A vodka soda with lime is pretty straightforward.
Title: Re: stuff to leave behind when your turn 35
Post by: buffcoat on January 31, 2011, 02:41:55 AM
Thanks, cutout, I'll have to try those.
Title: Re: stuff to leave behind when your turn 35
Post by: Christina on January 31, 2011, 07:28:50 AM
A Salty Dog/Greyhound can be nice (Grapefruit juice with vodka) in summer.

Artie's drink!
Title: Re: stuff to leave behind when your turn 35
Post by: Sarah on January 31, 2011, 09:07:23 AM
Sea breezes are good, too, but maybe too girly.
Title: Re: stuff to leave behind when your turn 35
Post by: dave from knoxville on January 31, 2011, 10:24:15 AM
Sea breezes are good, too, but maybe too girly.

No such thing as too girly.
Title: Re: stuff to leave behind when your turn 35
Post by: Mark in Helsinki on January 31, 2011, 11:40:10 AM
My friend and I were talking about things we thought were healthy to leave behind a few years after finishing your first abortive attempt at a career and first or second round of graduate school:

Examples:

-thinking your poetry/music is good poetry/music
-Having fun in anything that isn't your own home
-Jeans

And a bunch more.

What are some good ones I'm missing?

I know this was/is a fun thread, but I gotta know... Is meltmaster under the age of said 35 years?
Title: Re: stuff to leave behind when your turn 35
Post by: Mark in Helsinki on January 31, 2011, 11:46:45 AM
Getting tattoos.

Being over 35 and tattoo-free, I submit that 35 should be the age when you're allowed to get your first tattoo.
Title: Re: stuff to leave behind when your turn 35
Post by: Steve of Bloomington on January 31, 2011, 01:58:21 PM
That way the tattoos have less time to get blurry and purple.
Title: Re: stuff to leave behind when your turn 35
Post by: colonel panic on January 31, 2011, 04:45:52 PM
Getting tattoos.

Being over 35 and tattoo-free, I submit that 35 should be the age when you're allowed to get your first tattoo.

I'm in this boat (35, no tattoos) and I'm thinking about going big. Don't laugh too hard but I kind of want a jalapeno plant circumnavigating my body. The first thought I had after I typed this was "boy, do I need to lose some weight".
Title: Re: stuff to leave behind when your turn 35
Post by: Steve of Bloomington on January 31, 2011, 09:44:31 PM
I want to get a full back tattoo of the cover of the Rush album 'Hold Your Fire'. I'm a juggler so it means a lot to me.
Title: Re: stuff to leave behind when your turn 35
Post by: Gilly on January 31, 2011, 09:54:49 PM
Try an amaretto sour. I don't think that would be considered a girly drink.
Title: Re: stuff to leave behind when your turn 35
Post by: buffcoat on January 31, 2011, 10:05:23 PM
Try an amaretto sour. I don't think that would be considered a girly drink.

Adding it to the list.
Title: Re: stuff to leave behind when your turn 35
Post by: Steve of Bloomington on February 01, 2011, 12:04:11 PM
I want to try the 'Flaming Dr. Pepper' after hearing Hannibal Burress' bit about it.
Title: Re: stuff to leave behind when your turn 35
Post by: Ojingeo on February 02, 2011, 06:47:08 PM
My friend and I were talking about things we thought were healthy to leave behind a few years after finishing your first abortive attempt at a career and first or second round of graduate school:

Examples:

-thinking your poetry/music is good poetry/music
-Having fun in anything that isn't your own home
-Jeans

And a bunch more.

What are some good ones I'm missing?

I know this was/is a fun thread, but I gotta know... Is meltmaster under the age of said 35 years?

nope. 36. but i don't look or act it. the 25 years thread was making feel depressed. mainly because i've been unemployed and living at my mom's for almost 2 years. but that shall soon end! i will be employed and in my own home soon. so i can be an adult again.

oh and i said it's "adult time." I meant "Grown-up Time." "Adult" time is something different.