My wife and I are getting close to having kids and with both of our families in MN it just doesn't seem right to move out of the state. However, my wife is going to be taking her bar this summer so wherever she takes that is going to decide where we are for probably the next 20-30 years. By leaving the state we'd be pretty much starting a new life as just the two of us and whatever kids we have since we have very few friends and family outside of MN. I don't think that's what we want to do, but neither of us really like the benefits of the state itself.